Monique
Wife: Monique, Age 46
Missing Husband: Caribe, Age 47
Location: Brooklyn, NY
Disappeared: September 2019
Their Love Story
Monique and Caribe met thirteen years ago on the set of 106 & Park (A music video countdown show) where both were working security/executive protection. The connection was immediate, bonding over weightlifting, discipline, and the shared “protector” mindset.
Monique is a U.S. Army veteran who later became a female bodyguard and now runs a nanny service. Caribe is a calm, stoic bodybuilder and security professional.
After roughly seven months of dating they moved in together, worked side-by-side as security, and were known in their circles as inseparable.
They married in July 2018 in Long Island with an exuberant Coming to America themed wedding complete with live musicians and Brazilian dancers.
Their dream of happiness was simple and vivid: keep working shoulder-to-shoulder in the security industry, build a family together, and enjoy a stable, joyful life.
The Accident & Disappearance
In the months after the wedding, tensions between both families increased as Caribe’s family was jealous of Monique’s happiness with Caribe. They became territorial of him, and didn’t like the fact he was marrying her. Yet early 2019 brought joy when Monique learned she was pregnant with their first child together.
Monique has three children from a previous marriage.
Days before a trip to Texas for his sister’s birthday, a crowded salon visit went wrong. A stylist applied a product containing dye to Monique’s scalp despite her dye allergy, which triggered swelling and an escalating reaction.
On the flight to Texas the next day, the change in cabin pressure worsened the reaction; by 1 a.m., Monique went into anaphylactic shock, her face and scalp swelled dramatically and the medical treatment that saved her led to the loss of the pregnancy.
The trauma devastated Monique physically and emotionally; she later struggled to return to her job (she was as a receptionist at that time) where her role centered on greeting guests with a smile. She lost her job.
They were renting a four-bedroom house with a yard, and the rent had become unsustainable on one income, so they lost their shared home.
Together they agreed on a practical plan: downsize to a cheaper place as soon as possible. As a stopgap, Caribe said he could stay with an uncle, and Monique could stay with her daughter while they apartment-hunted.
To finalize the plan, they scheduled a sit-down dinner the following week to map out next steps in terms of budget, timeline, and where each would land in the interim.
September 1st 2019. On the agreed date, Monique went to the dinner expecting to discuss logistics for moving, money, and a timeline to secure a more affordable home.
He did not show up for the dinner and did not call or text to cancel or explain.
When she tried to reach him by phone and social media that evening and over the next day, she discovered she had been blocked on his numbers and accounts.
From that point forward, he made himself deliberately unfindable: he changed or hid phone numbers, withheld any address, and avoided places or people she might use to reach him.
Aftermath & Attempting To Find Him
For years he has re-emerged only on his terms (by text) sending a once-a-year birthday text, often from a different or blocked number and sometimes writing, “This is your husband” before evaporating again, which Monique describes as ghost-like, manipulative behavior that lets him “have his cake and eat it too.”
Monique pursued every reasonable channel to reach him, from long, heartfelt emails that went unanswered to asking pastors and mutual friends to intervene, yet nothing broke the wall of silence.
She attempted to initiate a divorce herself but he never signed the paperwork.
Monique’s attempts to locate him have included considering a private investigator and checking with relatives (an uncle told her he was not living there), but his habit of changing numbers, offering no address, and sharing no verifiable details has kept him effectively unfindable by her.
A Mama’s Boy
Monique’s identical twin sister, Lavernique, believes a key reason for the breakdown is Caribe’s relationship with his mother, describing him as a “mama’s boy” who deferred to her wishes even after marriage.
According to this view, when Monique and Caribe fully committed, his mother perceived it as “losing her baby boy,” reacted with resentment, and sabotaged the relationship, including making Monique feel unwelcome and “not part of the family.”
Tracking Him Down & Moving On
She feels ethically unable to present herself as single, she wears a purity ring and avoids dating, and she fears that the “Hill” surname on her ventures (e.g., Dakota Hill children’s business and Golden Dragonflies -an online boutique) could invite claims or interference if those brands grow while she is still tied to him on paper.