Ashley: Age 30

Location: Washington D.C. (formerly Utah)f

Missing Ex-Partner: Regan (approx. early 40s)

Together For Three Years - Met in 2020

Last Seen: 2023 (when Ashley was 26)

• Relationship Background

  • Ashley met Regan online in approximately 2020 where he was trying to become a life coach. He hired her as a “practice client” for coaching sessions. 

  • At 24 years old, Ashley entered into a relationship with Regan, who was approximately 20 years older than her. Their connection was immediate and intense, rooted in emotional vulnerability, spirituality, and shared experiences. They bonded through long conversations and psychedelic experiences, which Ashley felt created a deep “soul-level” connection.

  • The relationship became serious after a 10-day luxury trip to Hawaii, where they traveled together and solidified their bond . Ashley describes this time as the first period in her life where she felt emotionally seen and valued in a relationship, especially compared to her previous experiences with infidelity and emotional neglect.

  Life In Utah

  • Following the Hawaii trip, Ashley relocated from the DMV area to Utah to be closer to Regan. Regan invited Ashley’s sister as well.

  • Ashley’s parents were terrified that she was making a terrible decision and were concerned that she was making a reckless choice with a man they had never met. Ashley wanted to defy her parents, so she and her sister wrote a goodbye note and left it for their parents in the glove compartment of their parents’ car. The parents didn’t discover that they were missing for two weeks, as Ashley and her sister were living in an apartment. When the parents discovered that their daughters were missing, they tried to connect with them, but Ashley and her sister ignored their mom and dad.

  • While she initially maintained her own apartment, Regan financially supported much of her lifestyle, including rent and expenses. Eventually, they lived in a luxury home near Zion National Park, which cost approximately $6,500 per month and sat on two acres of land.

  • Together, they began building a life coaching and retreat business, operating out of their home and working closely as partners. Their relationship was framed as a long-term life partnership, and although they were not legally married, Regan frequently referred to Ashley as his wife.

  Relationship Issues

  • Regan had five children with two different women and had completely abandoned one of his children. 

  • He also blurred professional boundaries by developing inappropriate relationships with younger female clients through his life coaching work. He would get too close and too personal with his clients. On one instance he flew to San Francisco to “cuddle” one of his clients as she was “in a vulnerable place.” 

  • While he presented himself as emotionally intelligent and self-aware, Ashley began to realize that much of this persona may have been performative.

  • Despite recognizing these issues, Ashley remained emotionally invested, often trying to understand and rationalize his behavior rather than walk away.

  The Family

  • Tensions escalated further when Ashley became more involved with Regan’s family, who were deeply rooted in Mormonism. Ashley, as a Black woman, felt out of place and experienced both subtle and overt racial discomfort within his family dynamic.

  • Regan was going through a transition from Mormonism to his own spiritual path. Although his family was Mormon, he was transitioning out of the faith. Often, he would be rebellious against the teachings and principles he grew up with.

  Home Break Ins

  • Ashley experienced two back-to-back break-ins at their home, including one involving an unknown intruder and another involving her landlord forcibly entering the property. She was alone in a remote location and feared for her life, yet received little emotional support from Regan during or after the incidents.

  The Disappearance (2024)

  • When Regan returned, he was emotionally distant, angry, and detached. Within days, he abruptly ended the relationship without providing a clear explanation. He stopped paying rent, which triggered further instability, and moved Ashley into a remote motel about an hour away.

  • He told her he would return after handling things at the house, but he never came back. Ashley never saw or heard from him again. There was no closure, no follow-up, and no explanation for his sudden disappearance.

  Aftermath & Reconciling With Parents

  • Following the breakup, Ashley was left in a vulnerable position both financially and emotionally. She was forced to reconnect with her estranged family for support and ultimately left Utah to rebuild her life.

  • Ashley’s parents are just now beginning to learn the extent of her experience with Regan. She has kept this chapter of her life a hidden secret from them as a way to avoid scrutiny and conflict. 

  Why She Can’t Find Him On Her Own

  • Ashley has no current way to contact Regan. She does not have a phone number, email address, or physical address for him, and all previous methods of communication are no longer active or accessible.

  • Regan also lives an extremely nomadic and unpredictable lifestyle. He frequently moves between locations, including Utah, Oregon, Washington, and potentially other places, often living off-grid, couch surfing, or disappearing into remote areas. He has a history of abandoning homes, jobs, and financial responsibilities without warning.

  • Ashley believes he may also be actively avoiding being found due to debt, legal issues, or personal instability. His pattern of behavior suggests that he could be intentionally living under the radar, making it nearly impossible for her to locate him without professional help.

  Why She Wants to Find Him

  • Ashley wants to find Regan in order to separate herself from him fully, both personally and professionally. She needs clarity regarding the business they built together and whether he is still using her ideas or intellectual property .

  • She is also seeking answers and closure after being abandoned without explanation. Beyond that, she wants accountability. She believes Regan has a pattern of manipulating and abandoning women and feels a strong need to expose that behavior.

  • Ultimately, her goal is not reconciliation, but truth, closure, and justice.