Ashley T.
Ashley: Age 30
Location: Washington D.C. (formerly Utah)
Missing Ex-Partner: Regan
Together For Three Years - Met in 2020
Last Seen: 2023
Relationship Background
Ashley met Regan online in approximately 2020 where he was trying to become a life coach. The two met on a website where he hired her as a “practice client” for his nascent coaching business.
The two got to know each other online through their coaching sessions. Ashley was young and always interested in psychology so she was absolutely open to exploring herself and meeting Regan. The two immediately connected. He live in Utah at the time and was from a conservative Mormon family, Ashley lived in Washington D.C.
Regan flew to Washington D.C. to visit her and they immediately hit it off. At 24 years old, Ashley entered into a relationship with Regan, who was approximately 20 years older than her. Their connection was immediate and intense, rooted in emotional vulnerability, spirituality, and shared experiences.
Regan offered to take Ashley on a Hawaiian vacation. Ashley was smitten with him and excited about the prospect. Her father was livid, distrustful of a stranger that his daughter had met on the internet. However, nothing could stop Ashley once she had feelings and had made up her mind.
The relationship became serious after a 10-day luxury trip to Hawaii, where they traveled together and solidified their bond. Ashley describes this time as the first period in her life when she felt emotionally seen and valued in a relationship, especially compared to her previous experiences with infidelity and emotional neglect.
Life In Utah
Following the Hawaii trip, Ashley relocated from the DMV area to Utah to be closer to Regan. Regan invited Ashley’s sister as well.
Ashley’s parents were terrified that she was making a terrible decision and were concerned that she was making a reckless choice with a man they had never met. Ashley wanted to defy her parents, and didn’t plan to tell them that they were moving, so she and her sister wrote a goodbye note and left it for their parents in the glove compartment of their parents’ car. The parents didn’t discover that they were missing for several weeks, as Ashley and her sister were living in an apartment.
Once Ashley’s mother discovered that her daughter’s were missing, Ashley simply texted her mother back, “I live in Utah now.” And left it at that. Naturally, this was a major fracture in the relationship with her parents.
While she initially maintained her own apartment, Regan financially supported much of her lifestyle, including rent and expenses. Eventually, they moved in together into a luxury home near Zion National Park, which cost approximately $6,500 per month and sat on two acres of land. It was a beautiful and palatial space. Regan made money helping people pass the LSATs and SATs and gain admission to competitive academic programs as a coach and tutor.
Together, they began building a life coaching and retreat business, operating out of their home and working closely as partners. Their relationship was framed as a long-term life partnership, and although they were not legally married, Regan frequently referred to Ashley as his wife. They defined themselves as life partners.
Relationship Issues
Regan had five children with two different women and had completely abandoned one of his children. Ashley had a hard time navigating being a step-mother figure to his older children who lived with them who were only several years younger than she was.
Regan also blurred professional boundaries by developing questionable relationships with younger female clients through his life coaching work. He would get too close and too personal with his clients. On one instance he flew to San Francisco to “cuddle” one of his clients as she was “in a vulnerable place.”
While he presented himself as emotionally intelligent and self-aware, Ashley began to realize that much of this persona may have been performative.
Despite recognizing these issues, Ashley remained emotionally invested, often trying to understand and rationalize his behavior rather than walk away. She stayed by his side in an effort to make the relationship work.
Often times Regan would make Ashley feel very special, doting on her, calling her his wife and talking about and genuinely wanting to have children with her.
The Family
Tensions escalated further when Ashley became more involved with Regan’s family, who were deeply rooted in Mormonism. Ashley, as a Black woman, felt out of place and experienced both subtle and overt racial discomfort within his family dynamic.
Regan was going through a transition from Mormonism to his own spiritual path. Although his family was Mormon, he was transitioning out of the faith. Often, he would be rebellious against the teachings and principles he grew up with.
Home Break Ins
Ashley experienced two back-to-back break-ins at their home, including one involving an unknown intruder and another involving her landlord forcibly entering the property. Regan was out of town for both of the break-ins.
When their landlord broke into the home, Ashley was terrified and confronted her, demanding that she leave. The landlord did not leave; instead, she searched the home for her own property and left with two very large and valuable pieces of art that she owned.
The Disappearance (2024)
When Regan returned, he was emotionally distant, detached, and dismissive of Ashley’s encounter, downplaying its severity.
Within days, he abruptly told Ashley that things weren’t working and that they had to move, without providing a clear explanation.
Ashley later discovered that he had stopped paying rent. It all clicked—he owed two months of unpaid rent to their landlord, totaling $13,000. The landlord, upset over the lack of payment, felt she had no choice but to break into her own home and take and sell her artwork in order to recover some of her losses.
At that point, Regan and Ashley went to a hotel, as they could no longer stay in the home. Regan dropped Ashley off with all of her belongings and promised that he would return. He never did, and that was the last time she saw him.
Aftermath & Reconciling With Parents
Following the abandonment Ashley was left in a vulnerable position both financially and emotionally. She was forced to reconnect with her estranged family for support and ultimately left Utah to rebuild her life.
Ashley now lives in Washington, D.C., where she is rebuilding her life and still reeling from the strange, uncomfortable, and surreal experience of living with Regan, his children, and meeting his family.
Ashley’s parents are just now beginning to learn the extent of her experience with Regan. She has kept this chapter of her life a hidden secret from them as a way to avoid scrutiny and conflict.
Why She Can’t Find Him On Her Own
Ashley has no current way to contact Regan. She does not have a phone number, email address, or physical address for him, and all previous methods of communication are no longer active or accessible.
Regan also lives an extremely nomadic and unpredictable lifestyle. He frequently moves between locations, including Utah, Oregon, Washington, and potentially other places, often living off-grid, couch surfing, or disappearing into remote areas. He has a history of abandoning homes, jobs, and financial responsibilities without warning.
Ashley believes he may also be actively avoiding being found due to debt, legal issues, or personal instability. It’s clear to Ashley that he owes unpaid child support and she feels he certainly owes money to a lot of people. He could be intentionally living under the radar, making it nearly impossible for her to locate him without professional help.
Why She Wants to Find Him
Ashley wants to find Regan in order to separate herself from him fully, both personally and professionally. She needs clarity regarding the business they built together and whether he is still using her ideas or intellectual property. She wants to find him to clear his name from their shared business.
She is also seeking answers and closure after being abandoned without explanation. Beyond that, she wants accountability. She believes Regan has a pattern of manipulating and abandoning women and feels a strong need to expose that behavior.