BRIDE: Amarachi (37)

GROOM: Idris (27)

LOCATION: Los Angeles, CA

Dating: 1 Year

Engaged: 9 months

Wedding Date:  June 2025

When Amarchi and Idris met at a club a year ago the sparks immediately began to fly. He approached the beautiful woman in the dim night club. She didn’t know that the handsome guy flirting with her was ten years her junior, but she was flattered and smitten by the attention. They exchanged numbers and romance blossomed. Although there is a ten-year age gap they immediately started dating and when Amarachi was three months pregnant with their son they decided to get engaged. This couple started dating, became pregnant and got engaged all in less than a year! Even they admit that they moved so fast that it’s impossible that they can truly know everything about one another. There are plenty of questions, aspects of their lives and unknowns that this couple hasn’t had the chance to explore because they’ve only known each other for such a short timeframe.

Often mistaken for Amarachi’s son, Idris is a young party boy at heart who still likes to go out to the club and party all night long. This is a huge point of contention for this couple. Amarachi realizes that this is how the met, but now that they are engaged and have a baby they seem to be on different pages and living different lives and lifestyles.  

Amarachi was married previously and has two other children in addition to their baby that they have together. She simply doesn’t have the time, energy or interest to party all night. She is at a different point in life. The disconnect causes turmoil and arguments. Amarachi gets suspicious about what Idris is doing while he’s out with his friends. She also resents Idris for not being home to take care of their family. Idris is resentful because he feels entitled to enjoy his youth. If not now, when? Additionally, Idris’ family is Nigerian and is putting pressure on the couple to get married. In their culture, it is ideal for the husband and wife to be married before they have children together. It begs the question: are they getting married because they are in love and they want to spend the rest of their lives together or are they getting married because they have a child together and they believe that it is the right thing to do? They care about each other but are unsure if they are truly meant to spend forever together.

AMARCHI’S QUESTIONS FOR IDRIS

1)    Has Idris cheated on Amarcahi?  

Since Idris is hiding their relationship on social, what is he hiding? Why isn’t he more open about their relationship?  Why is he on the phone all the time. Since her first husband cheated on her, she is aware of the signs. She has lingering concerns because he can be private and evasive and it makes her feel like he is hiding something.

 2)    Is Idris really ready to get married?  

Has he lived enough life?  Is he ready for this big step? Is this what he truly wants or is he telling Amarachi what she wants to hear?

 3)    What does Idris dislike about Amarachi?  

She thinks he’s not telling her everything. He pretends to not have needs and opinions. She wants him to be direct and honest.

 4)    What ended Idris’ previous relationships?  

Idris says his ex-girlfriends still want him back, so what really happened there?

5)    Does Amarachi have to convert to Islam?  

She is a Christian, but Idris wants her to go to the mosque with her. Is this truly a deal breaker for them and their relationship if she doesn’t convert?

IDRIS’S QUESTIONS FOR AMARCHI 

1)    Why did Amarachi pick Idris?  

She seems to be talking to other guys and could have other guys.  Why did she want him to move in right away? Why was there a rush in the relationship? Why did they become so serious so quickly? 

2)    What was Amarachi doing when she was Idris’ age?

She gets quiet when he asks her what she was doing back then. It raises red flags for Idris. What is she not telling him?

3)    What happened in Amarachi’s past relationships?

What happened to cause her to have such serious trust issues?