GROOM: Brendan (Age 38)

BRIDE: Alexis (Age 42)

LOCATION: Brendan and Alexis live separately but both call Tennessee home, with Brendan based in Nashville and Alexis living in Portland, Tennessee just outside the city.

RELATIONSHIP DURATION: They have been together since summer 2021

ENGAGEMENT DATE: Summer 2022 and they hope to marry sometime in 2026.

Alexis and Brendan first met in 2021 and quickly discovered a shared creative spark. Alexis, an interior design project manager working for the Metro Nashville government, and Brendan, an artist, musician, and content creator, bonded over humor, artistic expression, and their mutual love for their children and pets. Their relationship developed steadily, and they became engaged in 2022 with hopes of planning a wedding once life settles down enough for them both.

While deeply connected, Alexis and Brendan’s relationship has endured significant turbulence. Both come from complex pasts involving prior marriages and contentious relationships with ex-partners. Both Brendan and Alexis admit to trust issues stemming from infidelity and betrayals in previous relationships. Alexis acknowledges that during moments of severe stress and panic, she has said things she regrets, causing further tension between them. Brendan wrestles with doubts about whether Alexis is truly prepared for a committed marriage, especially given her history with infidelity, conflicts with ex-partners, and reluctance toward therapy or fully addressing past trauma. Alexis, meanwhile, wonders whether Brendan can forgive her for moments when she felt overwhelmed and did not stand as strongly by his side as she wished.

Their families and friends have mixed feelings about their future. Alexis’s parents, who live in Michigan, have expressed concern about the chaos surrounding her divorce. Some of Brendan’s friends and family have worried whether he’s truly ready to remarry after his painful divorce.

Despite everything, Alexis and Brendan remain fiercely devoted to one another, sharing an undeniable connection built on creativity, humor, and a vision for the life they want to build. They describe their relationship as one marked by resilience and sacrifice, believing they each fill in the gaps where the other struggles. However, both admit that they sometimes wonder whether they’re bonded by genuine love or simply by shared trauma and the experience of surviving chaos.

Example Questions From Alexis to Brendan:

  • Have you cheated on me?

  • Have you cheated since 2022?

  • Will you commit to living in two different houses for the sake of me having visitation of my child?

  • Did Brendan cheat after the engagement?

  • Will you consider a career outside of music?

  • Do you trust me around other men or your co-workers?

  • Do you see a long future with me?

  • Is he willing to forgive me for the issues I have caused in our relationship?

Example Questions From Brendan to Alexis:

  • Has she cheated on me?

  • Will she be okay with not having any more kids?

  • Does she understand the impact that my ex-wife’s affair with her co-worker has had on me?

  • Is there anything in her medical history that I should be aware of or that she is hiding?

  • Do your parents like me and accept me?

  • Are you willing and able to take on the role of “step-mom” for my daughters?

  • Will you be okay with not being rich or having a lot of money?

  • Will it change how you love me if our sex life changes?

  • Would you forgive me if I ever cheat on you?

  • Did you lie when you said we would eventually have a threesome?

  • Does she actually like my music? Or, does she think I’m wasting my time?

  • Does she think I am a good father and role model?